I had been mentioning a movie I really wanted to see to my husband for the past few weeks. When I got home from work yesterday, he had this look on his face like he had an amazing secret. He then told me he had rented a movie for us to watch. I asked, and he had me try to guess. He kept me guessing and had this air of excitement in his voice. Finally, he told me the title, and I got very excited. A look of pride and satisfaction came over him like a little boy who had just retrieved a runaway balloon and presented it to it's owner.
Seeing how wonderful it made him feel that he pleased me, made me think about the power we as women have over the men who love us. They want to make us happy. Even more than that, they want affirmation that they please us. The job of being the man in our lives is very important to them, and they want to do it well. We can make them feel lousy or like superman. We have the tools to nurture and the nature to tear down.
A nagging and negative woman is like a bad boss. Our men end up not wanting to come home to that job if their wives are constantly tearing them down. He doesn't want to hear all of the things he isn't doing right and never hear about the things he does do right or how much effort he does put into the relationship. I am not saying in any way that women are superior to men. I am saying that a good man is made better when he knows he is making a positive contribution to the life of the woman he loves. He becomes a better leader and a better person.
Women need to recognize the power they hold in their hands. Men may not appear to be fragile, but remember, they give their hearts to us and willingly make themselves vulnerable. They may not seem sensitive, but when it comes to the women they love, they are probably more sensitive than we are.
I am so very thankful that my husband opened up his heart to me and continues to daily. I pray today that the words I speak and actions I take re-affirm that being vulnerable with me is a good decision.
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