I admit...I am a reality show junkie. I just can't help myself. I know that most of it is ridiculous, but I find myself sucked into the lives of these people. I want to understand them, the dynamics in their relationships and see what happens next.
The more I watch the "reality" that takes over my living room, the more I realize a common theme. When it comes to relationships, which most reality shows are about, everyone wants to be loved. They may go after love in lots of different ways. One person might keep their distance scared of love while another throws themselves in the arms of others hoping the gesture will make the other person love them. I find myself feeling sorry for the people I am watching...that they are so damaged and/or unsure of themselves that drama is invited into their lives. From teenagers (16 and Pregnant, Teen Mom) to grown men and women (Keeping up with the Kardashians, Jersey Shore, Housewives), people just want to be loved for who they are.
People say, "I love you" in romantic relationships when they really mean, "I care about you". Have you ever done that? Have you ever said you loved someone when you realized later, you cared about them a lot. You were never in love with them. I have thought I was in love with someone only to realize I was in love with being in love. I liked this person enough to try to make them be the person I was going to be in love with. I was going to look over the issues that I later realized would have been devastating for both of us had we stayed together. I was going to focus on the positive and keep hoping this person would fit into my love story. I did not realize at the time how much God would show me about who I really was and what I can accomplish.
I realized to be in love with someone, is intoxicating. To be madly, deeply in love cannot be measured or explained. It isn't about what you get out of it. It isn't even about what the other person gets out of the relationship. It just, is. Until you have truly been in love, not lust or like, these words are mere letters put together on a page.
The difference between loving someone and being in love with them comes down to forces beyond our control. If you love someone, that doesn't mean they will love you back, but to be in love means you are in it with someone else. They are going to be with you the rest of this life, for better or worse until death do you part. It's magical and mysterious. It's a blessing that lasts a lifetime. It is a gift and had God only given me one thing on this earth, I would choose to truly be in love. I am thankful to be able to say that He did give that gift to me, and I am a very, very blessed woman.
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| Gary and Teen Mom Amber's Break-Up |
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| Kim Kardashian's larger than life wedding |
I realized to be in love with someone, is intoxicating. To be madly, deeply in love cannot be measured or explained. It isn't about what you get out of it. It isn't even about what the other person gets out of the relationship. It just, is. Until you have truly been in love, not lust or like, these words are mere letters put together on a page.
The difference between loving someone and being in love with them comes down to forces beyond our control. If you love someone, that doesn't mean they will love you back, but to be in love means you are in it with someone else. They are going to be with you the rest of this life, for better or worse until death do you part. It's magical and mysterious. It's a blessing that lasts a lifetime. It is a gift and had God only given me one thing on this earth, I would choose to truly be in love. I am thankful to be able to say that He did give that gift to me, and I am a very, very blessed woman.
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