My husband and I decided on a rule a few years ago when we are in an argument. No matter how upset we both get, when we have not stopped arguing and there is not yet a resolution, we still have to say, I love you before we hang up the phone or leave the house.
Now, do we always stick to this rule? Well, no. We are not perfect, and we are both the type of people that will fight tooth and nail until their point is proved and agreed upon. But, I can tell you this. If one of us leaves that unfinished argument without saying I love you, it seems as though a thousand daggers have pierced our hearts. We don't feel like saying we love the other one. No, we probably feel a lot of the opposite. We say it, because to us, it communicates an agreement: that no matter what, we will stick it out. We will figure out this problem. We will not let it put a wedge between us. We are committed to the other no matter how difficult it gets. No matter the hurtful words, miscommunication, or blame given, we are going to move past this and learn from it.
When the heat becomes unbearable in our relationship, we return to those three words that are so much more than mere emotion. They symbolize a covenant we made to one another on a very windy day one beautiful October day. They symbolize the the determination we have to make our relationship work and make it better no matter the disagreement. When we say I love you during an argument that has not been resolved, we are saying that we remember those vows and we mean to try to keep them. We want the rest of our lives to be lived not only with commitment to the promise of marriage but the fulfillment and blossoming of the love that promise births. I am a very blessed woman. No matter the trials of this life, the greater blessing that outweighs them all is my wonderful husband. I love you!
Now, do we always stick to this rule? Well, no. We are not perfect, and we are both the type of people that will fight tooth and nail until their point is proved and agreed upon. But, I can tell you this. If one of us leaves that unfinished argument without saying I love you, it seems as though a thousand daggers have pierced our hearts. We don't feel like saying we love the other one. No, we probably feel a lot of the opposite. We say it, because to us, it communicates an agreement: that no matter what, we will stick it out. We will figure out this problem. We will not let it put a wedge between us. We are committed to the other no matter how difficult it gets. No matter the hurtful words, miscommunication, or blame given, we are going to move past this and learn from it.
When the heat becomes unbearable in our relationship, we return to those three words that are so much more than mere emotion. They symbolize a covenant we made to one another on a very windy day one beautiful October day. They symbolize the the determination we have to make our relationship work and make it better no matter the disagreement. When we say I love you during an argument that has not been resolved, we are saying that we remember those vows and we mean to try to keep them. We want the rest of our lives to be lived not only with commitment to the promise of marriage but the fulfillment and blossoming of the love that promise births. I am a very blessed woman. No matter the trials of this life, the greater blessing that outweighs them all is my wonderful husband. I love you!
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